Bondage sex blew my mind

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to ask you for your advice. I am 20 years old and I have been dating a man for the past six months.

We have attended different events and he likes to show me off. He is 33 years old. I like this man. He took me away from my previous boyfriend. When I told my father about him, he said, "This is the second man you've told me you love. I hope you're not giving yourself to these men. I want my daughter to be wise and not let anyone take advantage of her."

Although I am only 20, I have visited many places with my father. He is a well-known figure and he travels a lot. I hope you would not believe that I am loose because I am not.

One day my boyfriend invited me out and because the event finished early, he told me that we could go to his place. We had a couple of drinks there. I was very conscious, but also felt very sexy. My boyfriend undressed himself and stood before me in the nude. Then, he undressed me. He tied my hands and began to romance me.

You can imagine what followed. I was on the bed wiggling and then he spread my legs and tied them to the base of the bed. By that time, he had taken off all my clothes. He turned on soft music and he locked the doors.

I wanted to play with him but I could not. He said he was putting me in bondage and that's what it was really, because all I was able to do was to move my waist. Otherwise, I was helpless. When I asked him why he tied me up, he said he wanted to put me in bondage.

I ENJOYED HIM

This man had every kind of sex with me. I enjoyed him and after he discharged in me, he loosened one of my hands and one of my feet and then he fell asleep, and so did I.

I knew when my phone rang but I could not answer. We slept for about two hours and then I realised that it was my mother who was calling me to check up on me. When we had sex, my boyfriend did not use any protection. I reminded him of that. He gave me money to buy the morning-after Pill, so I did. Although I took the pills, I fretted until my period came.

I told my boyfriend that the next time I come to his house, I would tie him up and put him in bondage. I love this man so much. His girlfriend is trying to get him back, but I cannot allow her to get him.

I would like this man and I to get married soon because he does not like using protection and I am afraid that he may get me pregnant. Please for your advice.

E.M.

Dear E.M.,

This man is 33 years old and you are just 20. If you indeed continue to be careless, he will get you pregnant and then he may walk away and behave as if he does not know you.

He does not want to use protection when having sexual intercourse, but that is the type of man you cannot trust. You said this man took you away from your boyfriend - how did he do that? You have not explained, but it is said that what goes around comes around. So expect anything to happen in your life. Karma might catch you.

I do not wish you anything bad; I am just saying to you, be wise. Remember the warning from your father - don't let him down. I am not here to condemn you. Don't drink too much. I wish you well.

Pastor