I don't want to migrate and leave my boyfriend

Dear Pastor

I hope you are fine. I am 18. I am living with my mother. I have a boyfriend who is my neighbour. He and I love each other for a long time. My mother and the people in the district know about us . They see us together and say what a lovely couple we are. My father is living in America and he filed for me. He is married to someone else but he still loves my mother. He always tells her not to get mixed up with any man in Jamaica, but my mother has a boyfriend. He is in Montego Bay. When he visits he does not stay here. She goes to be with him at a hotel. She doesn't want my boyfriend to come here when she is not here, but I allow him to come and she doesn't know. My papers are coming through. My boyfriend does not want me to leave and I don't want to leave him. We have been having sex for two years. I can't give him up. My father knows about him. He said that I should come and get settled and go to college and come back and marry him. But that would take too long. Please give me your advice.

C.M.

Dear C.M.,

Please, take your father's advice. If you were to leave Jamaica you would miss your boyfriend but you would not die. And though it might appear that you would be away for a long time, the years would go by very fast. So, put plans in place. Let your boyfriend know from now that both of you would separate but it would not be forever. Do not allow this opportunity of living in America and getting a good education to pass you by simply because you want to be with your boyfriend and to have sex with him.

Pastor