I promise to lock shop if he moves the wedding date

Dear Pastor, 

This December, my fiancé and I are planning to get married. 

He comes from a large family, so he wants us to have a big wedding but I know that we cannot afford one. He said his relatives will help him. I prefer to use the money that we would have to spend on a big wedding to buy a house. He has a car, but it is not in the best working condition, so I suggested that he could use some of his money to buy a new car.  

I want to get a lovely wedding ring. I do not want a cheap looking ring like what I am seeing some of my friends wearing. He told me that we should change the date of our wedding from December to next Easter, but I am not in favour of that, because when we started to have sex a year ago, the plan was to get married this December. If I am not seeing my period, we have sex every Friday evening and go out every Saturday night. I have never objected to having sex with him because that is the way we express our love for each other.  

When he suggested that we change the wedding date, I told him that I would close up my legs until April and find a way to satisfy myself without having sex with him. He said that I was talking foolishness. I told him he could test me; the wedding must go on in December.  

When we count the number of people we want to invite, it is over 60. We don’t have to have so many people coming to our wedding because money is tight. I am quite willing to have a private ceremony; just two witnesses and ourselves. But this man wants a splash because he wants to please his relatives and his friends. Please give me your suggestion.  

G.

Dear G., 

Your fiancé should learn to keep his promise. Both of you agreed over a year ago to plan your wedding for December of this year. 

For him to tell you now that you should change the date for next year because he believes that you will be in a better financial position, is making a fool out of you.  You have told him that you have power and that power is between your legs. You know what he wants is there. So I am not even going to go there, I will pass on. 

Plan a simple wedding and save all the money you can. I wish you well.  

Pastor