I have found Mr Right

Dear Pastor,

I am in my early 20s and I am trying to please my boyfriend in every way. We live together, but he does not want me to go out with my friends.

I did well in school and I am hoping to go to university this year. My boyfriend is a mechanical engineer. He is 30 years old. I am not hungry. He takes good care of me. He likes to come home to a clean house. Nothing pleases him more than when I cook his favourite meal.

He lived with his grandmother until he met me. His grandmother told him that he should marry me. He used to have another girlfriend, but his grandmother told me that she didn't have any manners, so she discouraged him from continuing that relationship.

His grandmother helped him to pay down on the house we live him. She wants him to get married because the people in her church were against him staying with her and having a girlfriend in the house. He used to have to sneak me in the house after his grandmother had gone to bed. One day his grandmother messaged him and told him that she is not a fool. She knew of a couple times when he brought me there, thinking she was asleep.

There was a house in the scheme that was up for sale. His grandmother gave him the down payment, and he bought the house and moved me there.

I only had two other men in my life before meeting this man. Coming to live with this man was a good decision. He does not want me to become pregnant now. At the same time, however, he wants to be a father before he is 35 years old.

Whenever I go to buy stuff for myself at the pharmacy, I buy condoms so that we will not run out. He never fails to ask me if we have enough protection. He is a good man. His grandmother likes him, and likes me.

Please give me some advice.

L.

Dear L.,

Be careful not to rush this man. Continue to work with his grandmother; he would listen to her more than you. Concentrate about school.

This man doesn't want you to get mixed up with other people. He knows that not every girl is good to have as a friend. If you plan to go out, you should tell your man where you are going and when you are going to be back. Nothing should be hard in that.

I wish you well. Take care of yourself and your boyfriend.

Pastor