Some of my male friends want to date me

Dear Pastor,

Your column is like medicine to me. Whenever I am down and I read your column, I get a lift in my spirit.

I am a widow. I am fairly happy. My friends asked me whether I would remarry. I have often talked about it and I say to them that I would know when the time comes.

I have male friends, and all of them tell me I am looking well. Some of them have offered to take me out, but I do not go with them because I know what they are after.

I have four adult children; two are living at the house and two are married and on their own. I have only one daughter, and I am very happy. She travels a lot because of her job, and she buys me lovely clothes. I have shoes that I have never worn. She has a man friend, but he does not sleep at my house. She says she does not want to have children until she is married. I told her that her clock is ticking. I would love to see her get married.

One of my male friends is a politician, but he is very rude, so I can't deal with him. It is only when my daughter is around that we have him over for diner. He and my husband were very good friends, so our relationship is close, but I would not give this man a chance at all. I am quite happy the way I am. I go where I want to go and I do not have to give any man an account of my whereabouts.

Some of these men who are always chatting up with me, flirt a lot with young girls and I cannot deal with that.

P.S.

Dear P.S.,

If you are happy as a widow, you should remain a widow. Ignore those who are always encouraging you to find another man.

There are many unhappy married women, and there are many single women who are very happy. You have chosen to remain single. I wish you the very best in life.

Pastor